Meeting Women Frustrations

Meeting women can be one giant pain in the ass. At times, it may feel like it is completely draining you. There’s the roller coasters of emotion and minimal sleep. There’s rejection and success which can come at any time, completely fucking with your understanding of what works and what doesn’t. Sometimes your really have to work for results, and sometimes they fall into your lap.

As a man, a lot of things are expected from you. Being born a male means you have to do most things to push the interaction forward.

You will summon the courage to start the conversation. You might have to plow through an initial crappy reaction. You have to direct the conversation where you want it to go, you have to get physical with her, you have to work out the logistics and you have to get her naked. There’s always some counter examples, but this is how it is for the most part. There might that fear of rejection holding you back from doing all of this. Maybe you think you’re doing everything right, but the girl just won’t bite.

There’s some serious work involved when you first get into this. Taking the hits, gradually desensitising yourself to rejection, building the confidence to escalate, asking for the number, arranging meet ups etc etc. Some of the time your results will definitely not reflect the amount of effort you put in to bettering yourself, and it might get you really pissed off.

You’re ganna get tired and worn out. You’re ganna get angry. You’re ganna get sad. You’re ganna be ecstatic. You might even want to go postal. Perservering despite all these setbacks will slowly mould your identity into that of a sexworthy guy. Keep at it, mo fo’s. Like Dory from Finding Nemo said, just keep swimming.

Now a couple of random stories:

Rude Blow Outs

I was recently out with a friend, who knows about the community but isn’t an avid follower. He still has the courage to approach when he’s got some beers under his belt. After spending an hour with a couple of girls, he found out they were married. He probably had a good time with them but suddenly it didn’t matter. He got pissed off, swore and left them without saying goodbye. Then he started approaching on the street. The last set he approached, he hadn’t even opened his mouth before the girl told him to “keep fucking walking”. Completely blown away by their rudeness, he lost it. Intense frustration.

I told him that it happens. you gotta take rejection sometimes, and it’s big deal. Yeah, it was still damn rude of them though. His approach probably wreaked of desperation after the rest of the events that night. It probably came off as some drunk guy looking to get laid. In that case they have every right to be rude, since they are only reciprocating.

It’s easy to get frustrated. I realised that I get damn frustrated with women A LOT. Like, when you are getting on really well with a girl over phone and text and then suddenly she stops replying altogether. Completely out of the blue when seemingly nothing has changed. Once again, it happens. Girls do this shit, and can get away with it because they have so many options, because they are pretty. There’s no point getting angry, cause it’s just the way it is. Eventually though, if you tough this shit out for long enough, they’ll be the ones begging to be with you.

Funny Message

My housemate got this message last night. You should know that my housemate is male, and his name is definitely not Jenny. (Names have been changed)

“hey Jenny its john (tall guy with brown hair that u saw in the *deleted*) here is my number just in case you change your mind. Xoxo john”

my friend replied
“wrong number buddy, better luck next time”

I thought it was funny. Poor guy.

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