Revisiting Natural Versus Routine, Spastic Ramblings

Consistency has been rather lacking recently. Opening isn’t a problem. Neither is getting them laughing, making them go all doggy dinner bowl or making out with them. The problem is actually getting to the same points in the interaction on a more consistent basis. When you consider that I may open anywhere around 25 sets per week and get one or two makeouts it almost sounds like a numbers game.

Wouldn’t it be nice to have that sniper style game where you see the girl you want and just get her? The thing is, I KNOW it will be possible eventually but fuck it is frustrating to not be able to do it right now. This is where you go all Eckhart Tolle on my ass and say to enjoy whatever is happening in the moment, enjoy the process, and not concern myself too much with the future. This doesn’t make it suck any less when you, as a guy who spends a lot of time improving himself, gets shut down by some partyslut who spends enough time in the mirror to look pretty and does enough drugs to stay skinny. Makes you wonder how the value systems in our society got that way… It’s kind of fucked up.

Anyhoo, so in the search for sniper game, I’ve found my brain kick back into “lets search for the magic pill” mode. Yep, I considered getting into routines. There seems to be a crap load of proof that they work, and I’m sure a lot of cool guys use them. Thing is, when I hear someone using something I know is a routine, or a routine slips out of my mouth, I feel sick. I’m not saying it just annoys me, I’m saying I feel PHYSICALLY ILL. It just does not compute, it does not feel right in any way, shape or form. Dispite this, I’m still going to keep looking into it to see if this is just conditioning that will go away.

Why am I getting so pissed at my results? They are kind of crap right now, at least compared to where I want them to be. Four months ago I had two regular girls who I genuinely liked and a third who was frankly only good for an occasional lay. She fell off the cards not long after meeting the other two. Then one wanted exlusive so she had to go. The last one was a cool chick who was awesome to hang out with but then she left the country and I never heard from her again. Since then (a month and a half ago), all numbers have staled out or end up being nutjobs (see last post), and I haven’t fonud another regular girl. Hence the search for something to give me an ‘edge’.

I’ve posted up about this a couple of times, and gotten some pretty good feedback. Apparently the point I am at is a pretty common sticking point in the quest to be a natural, and it’s a matter of manning up and pushing boundaries. But part of me still wants a structure behind all of this. I am inclined to believe that even a lot of the good natural guys have some knid of structure, even if they aren’t aware of it while they are talking to girls.

I’ve started looking at one guys personalised stacks that he writes for people, taking stories of their lives and building them up into an hour to hour and a half worth of storytime that involves the girl in a deep level of comfort and rapport. Stories are written to elicit a huge range of emotions in the girl, while introducing frames such as being able to keep secrets, neing non-judgemental and establishing both you and her as being ‘risk takers’. They communicate that you understand womens emotions, have been preselected by other women, are spontaneous, are willing to emote, are a protector of loved ones etc etc. Sounds like a DHV story on steroids with a dose of plutonium.

While I do not want to remember a 30 page multi-threaded, scripted conversation (even if it is about real stories), the principles behind this definitely got me interested. I feel that maybe it is worth learning how to appeal to different ’subpersonalities’ of the girl (i.e. the crazy side of her, or the sex maniac side) and work the coversation to bring this out.

I don’t really know enough about this yet, but it’s prompted me to at least improve on my story telling ability, which needs work. I’m on it.

p.s. I wrote this article up yesterday and decided not to post until today. In that time I have already felt some negative effects of this mindset. The common line that “you are enough” used to sit at the forefront of my mind, most of the time. Reading about all these little tricks has made me start thinking that I need some little gimmick to get the girl and I am no longer good enough as a person. The thought sickens me, but I’m going to keep investigating this routines stuff.

I’m not going to be aronud to write an article next week cause I’ll be busy creaming my pants over the 210cm base and 70+cm of fresh snow on Mt Hutt in New Zealand. Oh yeah. In between that and getting indescribably drunk, I might try to write me some “DHV stories” (as much as I fucking hate that term). I also might just take the week off the community and women in general to release some of the frustration I have with that side of the spieces right now.

Peace.

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