Stop trying so hard

Stop trying so hard.

You think it would be obvious.

I don’t know how many times I’ve read it. Being “out of your head”, not thinking, doing whatever comes into your mind. The list goes on. We’ve all heard some variation of it about a million times.

Fair enough, I thought. I’ll go out and say what comes into my head. There I was, talking some serious bullshit. It was great. I’d be cracking myself up, cracking other people up or confusing them with complete nonsense. But it was just as hit and miss as whatever I was doing before that. The thing is, I was still trying so hard to generate that randomness and illogicality. I always talked a fair bit of shit, so [b]trying[/b] to be even more illogical just felt dumb.

I think I’m finally starting to realise what Alex~ means when he says “you are a man with his two feet on the ground, from there you generate attraction”. It means [b]trusting[/b] in the fact that you already ARE attractive. You don’t have to do anything.

I realised when doing a set with Alex with these two attention whore type girls who were making out with and groping each other and running around like fucking magpies (our term for girls who go after the first shiny thing they see).

Both of us are leaning back against the bar and I can’t help but run my mouth. So I’m thinking, “Oh shit, the attention isn’t on me…. How can I get it back??? … OK say something, claw her in….”

The attention comes back for a bit, but something about it is dodgy. I glance over at Alex and while these girls are doing their silly shit, he’s just chilling against the bar. He’s looking around the club, not really focussed on anything. Like a smack to the face I realise “durr, I’m already attractive, she’ll come back”.

Back in chill mode, both girls are up in our grill again.

That’s it. You already have everything you need to be attractive. Just chill, stop [b]trying[/b] to be attractive.

As much as I thought I wasn’t trying, the mindset was all fucked up. The girl was still “above” me. Wrong.

I think Alex’s articles are ganna make so much more sense now. Just gotta find some time to read the monsters that they are.

Again.

Stop trying so hard. Trust that you are attractive.

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